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19 October 2010 @ 11:59 am
Pregnancy Advice  
This is something I wrote on my Facebook not too long ago.  Wanted to share it here as well.


I'm fascinated by how we, as a society, treat pregnant women. A lot of the attention I got when I was pregnant wasn't very positive, even though I don't think it was meant that way. People just didn't give their words and what message they were conveying a second thought. If I had a backache, people would tell me how much worse labor was going to hurt. If I was tired, people would tell me how much less sleep I would get once I was caring for a newborn. And of course, everyone had unsolicited advice about what I should be eating, doing, taking, and even wearing. The only really good, solid, encouraging advice I got was from my mother. Forget what you think about mothers being obnoxious when their daughters are pregnant for just a moment, because my mom was actually pretty awesome. When I approached and passed my due date (and kept going), she was one of the only people who WASN'T calling me every day to see if I "had that baby yet". She never once told me what to eat, do, take, or wear. What she did tell me was, "follow your instincts because you know your body and your baby better than anyone." It's like she knew exactly where everyone else had been chipping away at my psyche and was able to inject the proper dose of encouragement right into that spot. That was HER motherly instinct coming through, and it was exactly what I needed.
So anyway, that thought has been rattling around in my head ever since I found out that someone else in my life has been freshly impregnated (congrats, you know who you are!). My only bit of unsolicited advice to that person, and to every pregnant woman I encounter for the rest of my life, will be "follow your instincts because you know your body and your baby better than anyone!"
 
 
 
Sunny Crittenden: Bubblessunnycrittenden on October 19th, 2010 04:18 pm (UTC)
Agreed. And again, I apologize for my anecdata in your journal right before you gave birth about how I'd induce if I were you. That was so stupid of me and I shouldn't have said anything.
one4theroadone4theroad on October 19th, 2010 04:45 pm (UTC)
You know, it wound up being the right thing to do anyway, and I appreciate the fact that you were trying to help. No hard feelings :)
butter or gunsbutterandguns on October 19th, 2010 07:18 pm (UTC)
I am in awe that you didn't have any pain meds!
Meat curtainsdanica on October 19th, 2010 05:50 pm (UTC)
My only bit of unsolicited advice to that person, and to every pregnant woman I encounter for the rest of my life, will be "follow your instincts because you know your body and your baby better than anyone!"

too true, and I found this to be SO true before my pregnancy, and completely and totally accurate AFTER, when I was told that I didn't know what my body was doing...I should have listened, I'd planed to listen to my body , I'd planned for a war, but the stupid dr's won anyways...I really hope it goes better this time.
butter or gunsbutterandguns on October 19th, 2010 07:16 pm (UTC)
You should submit this to Elephantjournal.com :) would make a great article...